I’ve been working at CALM for a year and a half.
I am an MFT intern therapist on the center based team. I see children who are age 6-17 years old and their families who have experienced some form of childhood trauma/ abuse. I also see parents who’s parenting has been impacted by their own trauma, which hinders them in supporting their own child through their healing process.
Recently I had an 8 yr who had experienced sexual abuse in addition to other trauma. She has been in counseling with me for one year. At the beginning of treatment she didn’t want to talk about the upsetting things that had happened to her. Towards the end, She finished writing out the story of the abuse, and I asked her to give advice to a friend in a similar situation who didn’t want to talk about trauma. She said “don’t just try to forget about it, because after you talk about it you might forget it even more! I feel not so uncomfortable about it now”. Now this client is outgoing and self confident after completing trauma focused treatment- and she can concentrate in class!
Help parents learn how to tolerate watching their kids struggle in decision making long enough to support them in coming up with their own solutions! I would teach them how to hold off a little longer in giving their advice so that their children can build confidence in themselves :).
CALM is not a place where we judge parents or tell them what to do. We understand what it’s like to be at the end of your rope as a parent, and have parenting not go the way you expected. We don’t pretend to know what it’s like to be in your situation , but rather give you tools to be the parent you want to be!