How to Not Be Silent

CALM received a phone call last month from a business owner who witnessed an abusive interaction between a parent and child in his store. Inspired by CALM’s I Will Not Be Silent campaign, this hero intervened and asked the man to stop hitting his child. After this incident, our hero realized that he did not really know the best way to help a child in a public place.  CALM has placed a quick resource on our website that shares wisdom about How to Stop Child Abuse in a Public Place.  Research has shown that there are five protective factors that have been linked to a lower incidence of child abuse and neglect.  Everyone in our community can help provide the five protective factors.

Which Protective Factors are Most Important?
(provided by Strengthening Families and Communities 2011 Resource Guide)

  • Nurturing and Attachment. A child’s early experience of being nurtured and developing a bond with a caring adult affects all aspects of behavior and development. When parents and children have strong, warm feelings for one another, children develop trust that their parents will provide what they need to thrive, including love, acceptance, positive guidance and protection.
  •  Knowledge of Parenting and of Child and Youth Development. Discipline is both more effective and more nurturing when parents know how to set and enforce limits and encourage appropriate behaviors based on the child’s age and level of development. Parents who understand how children grow and develop can provide and environment where children can live up to their potential. Child abuse and neglect are often associated with a lack of understanding of basic child development or an inability to put that knowledge into action. Timely mentoring, coaching, advice and practice may be more useful to parents than information alone.
  • Parental Resilience. Resilience is the ability to handle everyday stressors and recover from occasional crises. Parents who are emotionally resilient have a positive attitude, creatively solve problems, effectively address challenges, and are less likely to direct anger and frustration at their children. In addition, these parents are aware of their own challenges – for example, those arising from inappropriate parenting they received as children – and accept help and/or counseling when needed.
  • Social Connections. Evidence links social isolation and perceived lack of support to child maltreatment. Trusted and caring family and friends provide emotional support to parents by offering encouragement and assistance in facing the daily challenges of raising a family. Supportive adults in the family and the community can model alternative parenting styles and can serve as resources for parents when they need help.
  • Concrete Supports for Parents. Many factors beyond the parent-child relationship affect a family’s ability to care for their children. Parents need basic resources such as food, clothing, housing, transportation, and access to essential services that address family-specific needs (such as child care or health care) to ensure the health and well-being of their children. Some families may also need support connecting to social services such as alcohol and drug treatment, domestic violence counseling, or public benefits. Providing or connecting families to the concrete supports that families need is critical. These combined efforts help families cope with stress and prevent situations where maltreatment could occur.