How Do Great Parents…Set Limits

Setting Limits

(material provided by The Incredible Years, Carolyn Webster-Stratton, Ph.D.)

  • Don’t give unnecessary commands.
  • Give one command at a time.
  • Be realistic in your expectations and use age-appropriate commands.
  • Use “do” commands.
  • Make commands positive and polite.
  • Don’t use “stop” commands.
  • Give children ample opportunity to comply.
  • Give warnings and helpful reminders.
  • Don’t threaten children; use “when-then” commands.
  • Give children options whenever possible.
  • Make commands short and to the point.
  • Support your partner’s commands.
  • Praise compliance or provide consequences for noncompliance.
  • Strike a balance between parent and child control.
  • Encourage problem solving with children.

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